Asking for help from people worthy of it is true courage
If you don’t decide for yourself, other people will decide for you.
Many years back, I organized a key client visit as an offshore delivery head for a critical customer. Years later, I happened to be positioned for a role with him. Sales teams are always under revenue pressure, so they do not think much about whether this role suits you.
When my name was brought in front of our client, he immediately recollected me and said, “Oh…The guy with a mustacheð§ââïļ”. Looks like people remember us for odd reasons ð
Fast forward, after working for 2ïļâĢ weeks in this role, I realized that this role was unsuitable for my experience. Whoever positioned me wanted to grab the revenue without considering any other details.
At that time, I had just moved to the USA. I was not sure how this would be perceived by my team, and I was concerned.
I gathered my courage and decided to face the real issue without judgmentð§ââïļ.
I politely went to this stakeholder, explained the situation, and asked him for support to transition out of this role. He understood my capabilities and supported my request.
We had a great working relationship with each other for those few weeks.
Later I moved out of the role and took up one that proved my capabilitiesðŠ. I learned a hard lessonð from this experience and decided I would never let such a mistake repeat itself.
A few years later, I moved back to India, and a similar event happened again. Despite my request, I am placed again in a different role after informing my choices. Business priorities were forcing these decisions as well.
The mental pattern was precisely the same.
My intuition guided me, and I stood for myself with courage.
This event triggered me to rediscover deeply what I want to do going forward.
That led me to move into coaching.
The mental patterns you repeat become stronger inside you.
This is called as Neuroplasticityð§
The good news is All of us have it abundantly.
Understand your patterns and reflect if your patterns are working for you (or) working against you.
To further strengthen the good ones, practice Vulnerability.
Don’t be vulnerable with everyone but only with those worthy of it.
In my first incident, my client was worthy of my vulnerability; in the second case, it was my coach.
Asking for help from people worthy of it is true courageðĪ
So, If you don’t decide for yourself, other people will decide for you.
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