Breaking free from the myths of “Stability” and Soaring High
Today’s story comes via yet another ex-colleague Krish Sharma who was faced with a classic problem– the inability to let go of security versus tapping into full potential even though the job placed him at odds with his mental peace and put his family relations under strain as well.
When I caught up with krishn a few years back, he was facing a decision-making dilemma. He was a naturally non-confrontational person; hence found it difficult to say NO or effectively delegate tasks to his team. He was getting caught between a demanding project on the one hand and managing team dynamics on the other. He was caught in a spiral of long (16-18) hour workdays and stagnating growth, as he could not spare any time to hone his skills and develop his competencies.
Despite all these issues at work, he was struggling to take the one decision he knew was necessary, i.e., quitting his full-time job. He stated that there was a need for more adequate opportunities in an equivalent organization and financial issues. The core issue, however, was much more profound – it is what we find most challenging to let go of; the myth of “job security” that comes with a full-time job in any reputable organization. However, when we weigh this decision, we forget that any organization has the right to fire us anytime; what will happen to the fabled Job security then?
Krishn had recently moved to Canada🍁 and struggled to adjust to the new financial realities and team dynamics of the new team he had joined. That, coupled with a second baby👼 on the way for him, made him highly stressed and anxious😰 for his and his family’s👨👩👦 financial stability and security.
Krishn used to work on my project, and we both interacted and worked together successfully, so there was enough trust and familiarity to get started. When we started, I worked on emphasizing the following key aspects:
A job is just that – a job. No job offers permanent job security; hence one should make decisions professionally based on what is suitable for one’s mental balance and financial objectives, not the nature of the employment.
He mentioned that once we got on the “Personel Transformation Journey,” he started to
✅Soaring high with Confidence in his abilities or self-belief finally gave him the Courage to step out of the toxic situation.
✅Increased Self-Worth led him to earn gainfully after leaving his previous job, and pay & job satisfaction was higher quickly!
✅Think Entrepreneurial – Owing to higher self-belief and Confidence, his risk-taking ability gave him the Courage to pursue his dreams of becoming an entrepreneur.
✅Have a balanced life and their role in stress management and attaining a balance between work and personal life.
While these are qualitative benefits, he mentioned some quantitative benefits as well.
🏆His compensation💵 currently is way higher than when he was at a full-time job with manageable work hours a day.
🏆With limited working hours, time⏲️ devoted to his family increased proportionately, which has benefited his family life materially.
One of the critical things I emphasize to all our participants is the importance of showing Courage and taking that essential 1️⃣st step🪜. His first courageous decision created a domino effect of cascading positive events.
In Short, he has reaffirmed my core belief – Courage is the key; Emotions below Courage are harmful and destructive. Once you show Courage and make the right and not an easy decision, the sequence of events turns positive more often than not!
During these decisions, please be clear about your 1️⃣strengths, 2️⃣values, and 3️⃣identity. These three attributes make “Emotional Agility”.
⚡Emotional Agility is vital for a successful “Personal Transformation Journey.”
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