Even Coaches need the help of Coaching Tools

If you’re in a situation where you’re afraid, you experience emotions and feelings. Consequently, your body generates a physical response to this emotion by activating the fight🥷-flight🏃-freeze🥶 response as body-mind is interconnected.

Last week, I went through a traumatic situation that impacted me and disturbed me for a day when my car met with an accident. I want to highlight the approach and tools I used in this post to highlight the science behind the successful turnaround.

When the second or third step mentioned above gets interrupted, the energy of the emotion becomes trapped in the body. As a result, you might experience muscle tension, pain, or other ailments as bodily responses. This process was automatic, and I was hijacked.

It took a few minutes for me to notice that I was hijacked.

I chose to be an observer🔭 noticing the internal dynamics. {Coaching Tool: Observer Meditation}

I could identify my pattern of thoughts and emotions in a short period. I entered into a valley of thoughts and emotions. I decided to break my cycle of thoughts💭 and emotions. {Coaching Tool: Activating True Self}

My observer noticed negative emotions such as resentment, poor decision-making, self-sabotage, overreaction, increased stress and anxiety, and fatigue. I also noticed these thoughts are coming again and again. {Coaching Tool: Labeling thoughts and emotions}

Every time I experienced it, I noticed the impact on the body. My natural tendencies were not handled properly, and my emotions got trapped. I was experiencing tightness in my chest and head as bodily sensations.

Emotions that aren’t dealt with may become stored in your unconscious memory. It shows up in body language till they are released. My true self wanted to experience them, and my false identity stopped me from getting there.

I used the below approach to bounce back.

• Acknowledging feelings and distortions {Coaching Tools: Labelling the emotions, Identifying Cognitive distortions}
• Working through negative energies {Coaching Tool: Allowing myself to experience the event with Acceptance}.
• Making intentional movement.
• Journaling the experience {Coaching Tool: Emotional Expression through Expressive Writing}
• practicing stillness {Coaching Tool: Observe, Acceptance Meditation)
• Zooming out of incident {Coaching Tool: Navigate}

When an emotion is not fully processed, it may become “stuck” in the body. Using techniques to work through your emotions, you can learn to move on from past traumas and release the associated bodily tension.

I reflected the next day, If I would not have an awareness of these tools, what would have been my state of affairs?

There is no one silver bullet solution, but a bag🎒 of the right tools🔦 in the correct order helped me to balance and reignite positive emotional energies.

Knowledge and awareness helped me to come out of this valley faster and sooner through these tools. Even without these tools, I would have come out for sure, but it would have taken longer and potentially maladaptive approaches.

Coaches are not extraordinary fellows. They are ordinary people invested in continuous learning and applying tools to enable others. They ask powerful questions to make others think reflectively and realize their inner potential through various practical, proven strategies and tools.

Even Coaches need the help of Coaching Tools to manage themselves.

I said to myself, I am Walking the Talk.