Transformation Starts With YOU
If you stay in the Learning zone, it is 💯% possible that your kid will be in the growth zone. However, if you stay in your comfort zone, they may most likely follow in your footsteps👣. As a parent, did you reflect on which zone you prefer to stay in most often?
I recently received an interesting request from one parent if I could do a session for his teenage kid to deal with stress and increase their focus with my mindfulness & mental fitness program.
This parent was very concerned and asked if I could help. My response was yes, I could help, but I wouldn’t want to intervene at this point!
Given the apparent benefits, the question arises, why did I refuse?
The answer lies in my belief that people live in their zones – While Adults live in their cocoons of comfort, teenagers are on a journey of learning interspersed with fear. The ideal is for teenagers to move from learning & fear to a growth zone when facing competition or to be innovative. But here’s the catch, to do that, we need to ensure that they have the right
➕ tools
➕ techniques
➕ the right environment
And the critical driver of the environment is the Parents👩🏼🤝👩🏻 themselves. Kids learn by assimilating parents in many aspects of their life. It is their job to set an example.
Hence, I told the parent that their priority was to educate themselves and become aware of the mental 🧠 framework.
I told the parent that when they feel equipped, they know the tools ⚙️ & techniques, and are ready to set a better environment for the child when they do not understand it well.
I concluded by saying I would be happy to work with their kid for free when parents move out of their comfort zone and learn the techniques themselves.
When I followed this approach as a part of the previous cohort, one participant got selected for #Microsoft. She managed her self-doubt at the final interview, and her parent supported her by making her recollect the concepts. She was empathetic for herself during a stressful time and improved her focus on goals.
The adage mentioned during flight safety briefings of first helping ourselves before helping our kids is also applicable in this instance!
